My pastor spouse loves his job. In fact, when we first started in ministry, he worked all the time
--100 hours a week at least. Needless to say, he was never home. Even though I was newly married with no experience of being a pastor's spouse, I knew something was not right. So it wasn't long before I issued an ultimatum: Take some time off or else. I wasn't sure what the "or else" meant, but I was pretty angry. So my repentant spouse said he would take one day off a week. And guess what, he found that he got more accomplished the other 6 days. Later when we had kids, he went to 2 days off a week. And although he occasionally backslides, he has remained faithful to his promise. This is not to say that he doesn't work from 7 am to 10 pm every other day and talk on the phone, or do weddings, funerals, hospital visits, emergency counseling, or think about his sermon on his days off.
Statistics show that an average work-week for a pastor is about 50-60 hours. But the sicker the church, the more the pastor works. In my experience, this is true. With so many toxic and dying churches, some of our spouses are literally working themselves to death, others deal with stress in equally unhealthy ways (over-eating, other compulsive behaviors, addictions, depression, etc.) Wonder why our health insurance costs so much? The only profession that has higher stress is air traffic control.
Do you want your spouse to be healthier? Do you want your health insurance to cost less? (In a conference I know, the family health insurance is going to $30,000 a year. Yes.) We need to encourage our spouses to take time away from the church. Even Jesus did not work all the time. Even he got tired and had to get away.