tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6344296417215561454.post2167961496744287640..comments2024-01-08T10:43:35.440-06:00Comments on SpouseConnect: Plan on a Good MoveAdminhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10838090105213069031noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6344296417215561454.post-279015767967687742012-05-25T12:33:00.661-05:002012-05-25T12:33:00.661-05:00My problem is that I don't want to move. I thi...My problem is that I don't want to move. I think the new church will be good for my spouse, but we are moving to a very small town from a metropolitan area and a large church. I loathe moving into the fishbowl of a small town and having to give up the house we own and move back into a parsonage. I hate that the AC said regarding me that I could just commute to any number of towns within an hour's drive for a job. They didn't consider, of course, that I don't want to commute. That I don't want to lose that time with our children. But I have to remember that the clergy family isn't their concern, they will do what they think is right for the church. I have A LOT of anger right now. I've agreed to show up on Sunday morning for an hour and "be seen", but that's it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6344296417215561454.post-75132703547763457692012-05-12T00:25:14.455-05:002012-05-12T00:25:14.455-05:00Absolutely. When I was first married I tried to t...Absolutely. When I was first married I tried to talk with my husband and his response was, "I'm not your minister. I'm your husband and lover." It was boundary setting and a boundary that was maintained throughout our 49 years of marriage. If you are looking for spiritual guidance, my suggestion is to find a spiritual director. Someone outside of the UMC might be helpful for you to talk with.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6344296417215561454.post-37183804769582161252012-05-11T19:27:55.137-05:002012-05-11T19:27:55.137-05:00This isn't really related to this post, but I ...This isn't really related to this post, but I wasn't sure where else to ask...maybe it could be posted at some point for discussion. Anyway, here it is - do you ever feel like you need to talk to a pastor and don't know who to call? Like you can't talk to your husband as a pastor and have him listen to you like he would any other parishioner?Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15405449792316902895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6344296417215561454.post-82824544464191128382012-05-11T14:39:46.770-05:002012-05-11T14:39:46.770-05:00My deceased husband served three churches and one ...My deceased husband served three churches and one term as DS in his 47 year ministry with UMC. So, I have limited moving experience. However, I do have a tip that was shared by a clergy spouse of another denomination early in our marriage. When you are asked how people can help you get ready for a move, tell them to hire a cleaning service to come in after you leave. In our conference, I have a reputation as the person you want to follow because the parsonage is immaculate. One of the results of this service is that church members will not then share the condition of the ovens or other places that don't get cleaned often.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com